First of all let’s take a moment to stop and think – ‘August’. I don’t know about you but it doesn’t seem that April was long ago. One of the most glaring obvious signs of getting old, way above ‘middle age spread’, forgetting things and receding gums is the phenomenon of ‘time speeding up’. It’s an actual thing. I read it on the internet so it has to be true.
This months ‘Siblings’ linky will, no doubt be filled with summer fun, of brothers and sisters playing together and growing closer together. Picking blackberries, exploring our beautiful countries coasts, frolicking in lavender fields and so on. It will also have been intermittently scattered with bickering, disagreements, occasional boredom fueled grumblings (this post from Cas sums it up nicely). But hey, that’s what family is all about isn’t it? Sticking out the rough bits and moving closer on the smooth. Like a football to the face in a match of family football at 7am in the woods #totallyhappened.
The thing that I often forget as a parent is that it’s the seemingly insignificant things to me that are the grand adventures to my children. Sneaking oranges into my rucksack to present to my kids on a walk in the woods is the stuff of legends for example. We can get so caught up in the pressure to ‘create memories’ for our children that we lose the spontaneity and fun of the moment. It won’t be the time that you created the picture perfect picnic in the woods complete with bunting they’ll remember, but more likely the time you farted so loudly that the cup on the table shook and they laughed so hard that they fell off their chairs.
This month I’ve noticed the usual playing but also a glint in Kitty’s eye that signals a change on the horizon. Independence, a fierce will to do things her way. She still needs me, she still craves Ozzy’s company to play with but she also needs time to herself, to write, to draw, to grow, to carve her own path. But she’ll always have room for her brother’s thumbs up *obviously* Can you see it? She looks so much older suddenly…